Well that"s sweet of ya to say, thanks man. I think they've been worthwhile discussions so I don't 'regret' them, and you always keep it very civil and relaxed yourself. I think what I mean is like...if I was having a conversation with another fan in person and it was clear they were younger than me, I would approach the convo a bit differently. Because just speaking personally, for me, my early 20s were just an extremely formative time in my life. You're kind of out there facing the world for the first time, and it can feel vast and overwhelming (not that this feeling ever fully goes away, lol). For me, that operatic quality of Bruce Wayne/Batman's story as depicted in the Nolan films through that lens of tangible 'realism' for the first time struck a really powerful chord with me and it just became extremely easy for me to completely emotionally invest at that specific point in my life. From a perspective beyond just being a Batman fan my whole life, it just hit on a completely different level for me where it was like...this is legit food for the soul.
I get the sense based on the way you've talked about TB, that this movie is hitting you on that kind of intensely personal level, and what I'm saying is "I've been there". It's not where I am now with the character, but I completely relate to being at that point in my life, getting a great Batman movie and having it be kind of like a life-changing experience. A big part of my experience with The Batman has been the realization and acceptance that I'm not at that place anymore, being okay with that, and learning to appreciate it for what it is.
Let me tell you my friend. I was 33 at the start of the pandemic two years ago. Those two years did quite a number on me lol. Suddenly being closer to 40 than 30 and seeing a few greys start to crop up hit home for me in a big way that I'm still processing.
Now, I realize that sounds super dramatic-- let me just say:
I'm fine, it's not all bad, I'm overall very happy with my life-- but it has been a clarifying experience for my priorities and stuff. As bittersweet as it is to say, a new Batman movie just isn't moving the needle for me as much these days. All my friends are on the same page, so I don't think it's uncommon. Everyone in my circle enjoyed the movie and had nice things to say about it, but it didn't really spark any lasting conversations for the most part. I just have to be honest with myself about where I'm at in my fandom journey.
I think the intensely subjective POV-driven approach to the movie may be where some of it stems from for me too. I just don't feel the need to be put in Batman's point of view to such an intense degree like that, especially when the character is being portrayed in such a gloomy sort of way. I can't shake the sense that this version feels more like a doomed protagonist than previous versions have. I don't derive much value out of that, personally. It ironically ends up connecting me to it less, not more. It's not an experience I see myself being drawn to for many repeat viewings over time, at the very least. I suspect a lot of my enjoyment of the character over the years has stemmed from that more aspirational quality to Batman. Of course he's extremely flawed, he's got serious issues, but there's something bigger going on in the Batman mythos IMO. He's a reminder of what we're capable of when we really push ourselves to the limit. There's this aspect of, "F*** what you think, I can get there if I really push myself and believe in myself". This radically hopeful attitude. Not to literally be a vigilante obviously lol, but for whatever it is you're trying to achieve. When you're a kid it's more about literally dressing up or playing with your action figures and imagining you're Batman, but it evolves as you grow and you apply it to your life in other ways as you encounter more adult-themed depictions. The channeling of the negative energy into positive energy is a big piece of it for me. I know that's where this movie ultimately lands with it, but it just felt like it was telling me what I already know. For me, the experience of finally seeing Bruce played by an actor my own age just ultimately makes it less mythological to me. I end up feeling like I'm ahead of the character. And I think ultimately I just prefer the larger than life character in my head canon, from my memories, to what I'm being presented with in this film. None of this is a knock on Rob's performance, or Reeves' direction. He was
phenomenal in the role, from a technical acting standpoint. The movie masterfully crafted from frame to frame, even if I have a few narrative issues with it. This is just about how I processed it on a personal level.
The emphasis on the "symbol" of it all in TDKT is a big part of why I think those movies resonate with me stronger, beyond just how much I connected with it at that point in time. That really scratches my itch with what I think the character is all about, at least the value that I derive out of it on a personal/emotional level beyond just being a fan of the world and enjoying it on a pop culture nerd level.
You got the right idea though. You gotta stay young at heart, and I'm finding other ways to do that currently. I'm legit happy for you and the others here in our general age bracket that has had their fandom renewed and reinvigorated by the movie-- that's awesome. I'm not saying the journey inevitably goes this way for all of us, but that's just where I happen to be at with it at this moment in time. In a way, I'm enjoying shifting into being a bit more of a 'casual' fan. With this adjusted mindset, I don't have to put all this intense expectation/hype onto it, I can just go in a bit more relaxed and take it for what it is. I don't have to feel triggered when someone bashes it. I'm able to just take it all with a much healthier (for me) grain of salt.
Didn't mean for this to turn into a personal rant, but hopefully this clarifies where I'm coming from when I talk like a jaded old fart!