as put in another post, that's pretty much what happened. a 22 yr old exchange teacher from canada came over to my place and had a relationship with one of the girls in the year below me making her around 17. I didn't see the fuss considering he was a sports teacher and never really took her for any subjects. they met and got it on in school and never made the drama, it was all kept decent for a long while and there was no proof of their relationship at any point.
I guess i've reached an age where i feel that the art of manipulation is not directly correlated to one's age rather than perhaps status and life experience which puts me in a better position than most. I don't see the difference between an eager 17 yr old or an eager 30 yr old woman.
i guess the cut off for me is not an age based one, rather a gut feeling i get of whether i'm genuinely taking advantage of someone or not, and not matter how old i am, if i feel that someone has invested too much into something and that i can get them to do things willingly based on blind devotion then that's my cut off point.
it comes down to strength of will in my book, probably why i'm attracted to battle axes/crazy bi-polar women that'll cut me up into lil pieces if i stepped out of line.