Adulting is Hard: A Hype Survival Guide

[InCali]

i'm sorry for yalls loss :/

i almost lost my father this year. went to visit him after work, found him in the backyard in august, shirtless, covered in sweat and smelling as though he'd been there for hours. he couldn't get up, carried him in the house and he didn't know who i was or who he was. called paramedics and he went into the hospital for a month, and then assisted living where he has been since. he has become a fall risk, spending most time in wheelchair now although he can stand on his own for spells. he can hardly speak anymore, aphasia from the stroke. he's incontinent and has vascular dementia. he's 75. i'm getting no help from my siblings at all and it sucks. fortunately his veterans status means his funeral arrangements are set up, but i'm winging it. i'm doing the best i can and it still feels like its not enough.

Even if your family won't help, at least it isn't all on you. I was the sole caregiver, but my mom was okay right up until the very end. Literally 2-3 days before she passed, she was sitting up in bed and laughing and talking to her grand and great grandchildren. After that, she decided she didn't want to do her breathing treatments anymore and went quickly, quietly, and comfortably. I was sitting next to her holding her hand and a couple of her beloved poodles were curled up next to her feet.

It breaks my heart just thinking about it, but I can't think of a better way out.

 

[ComicChick]

just wondering if anyone out there is caring for ailing family?
my Dad's health has declined rapidly. he is now fully incontinent, wheelchair-bound and the aphasia has made him pretty much non verbal. he falls a lot, forgets he can't walk like he used to and the assisted living has given me 30 days to find long term care for him. he makes too much for medicaid, but not enough to privately pay for care for long so i think i'm going to have to sell his assets :/

 

[Erzengel]

just wondering if anyone out there is caring for ailing family?
my Dad's health has declined rapidly. he is now fully incontinent, wheelchair-bound and the aphasia has made him pretty much non verbal. he falls a lot, forgets he can't walk like he used to and the assisted living has given me 30 days to find long term care for him. he makes too much for medicaid, but not enough to privately pay for care for long so i think i'm going to have to sell his assets :/

I'll say that I'm not fully versed in this but, does your dad have any of these:
Veteran's benefits
Long term care insurance
Life insurance

You also maybe able to do a reverse mortgage.

 

[ComicChick]

I'll say that I'm not fully versed in this but, does your dad have any of these:
Veteran's benefits
Long term care insurance
Life insurance

You also maybe able to do a reverse mortgage.

he has VA benefits. i was finally able to get an appt to file to have his disability re-evaluated.

the house is 80 years old and junk. it's in terrible shape from lack of upkeep and i'd love to sell it and just be done with it, using the money for dad

 

[Erzengel]

Do you have a realtor friends/family?

 

[Erzengel]

he has VA benefits. i was finally able to get an appt to file to have his disability re-evaluated.

the house is 80 years old and junk. it's in terrible shape from lack of upkeep and i'd love to sell it and just be done with it, using the money for dad

Let us know how things work out. I wish I could have been more help.

 

[Gestarn]

Well i don't have friends who could help me, but i still manage to survive somehow, especially when we talk about money, i think that there are a lot of options of saving them. As a matter of fact, my sister is a big professional when we talk about savings, for example in clothing area. Like she always finds a way to buy cheap clothing. Like at Inlower, where there are many Designer brands women's cardigans can be found with good prices. So...i guess i have something to learn really

 

[Hobgoblin]

Last month I slipped and fell flat on my back. I have a scoliosis to begin with so falling hard only made it more painful. I went to the ER and they found nothing wrong in the CT scan. They gave me a note for two days off work and some pain medicine. The next several days were excruciating and I woke up in the middle of the night several times with stabbing pain, unable to breathe.

Things have gotten better since then, and that’s the frustrating part. I’ve been working half days (for the most part) for the past two weeks. Walking around at work is still very uncomfortable and working a full day leaves me exhausted. Today my boss told me that if it continued I’d have to go on disability. I have a doctor appointment in a few days to get advice. Part of me thinks I should suck it up and work full days again and the other half says to take it easy.

 

[squeekness]

Last month I slipped and fell flat on my back. I have a scoliosis to begin with so falling hard only made it more painful. I went to the ER and they found nothing wrong in the CT scan. They gave me a note for two days off work and some pain medicine. The next several days were excruciating and I woke up in the middle of the night several times with stabbing pain, unable to breathe.

Things have gotten better since then, and that’s the frustrating part. I’ve been working half days (for the most part) for the past two weeks. Walking around at work is still very uncomfortable and working a full day leaves me exhausted. Today my boss told me that if it continued I’d have to go on disability. I have a doctor appointment in a few days to get advice. Part of me thinks I should suck it up and work full days again and the other half says to take it easy.

I'm not convinced that it's a good idea to mess around with back pain. I'd stick with taking it easy.

 

[blueharvest]

Last month I slipped and fell flat on my back. I have a scoliosis to begin with so falling hard only made it more painful. I went to the ER and they found nothing wrong in the CT scan. They gave me a note for two days off work and some pain medicine. The next several days were excruciating and I woke up in the middle of the night several times with stabbing pain, unable to breathe.

Things have gotten better since then, and that’s the frustrating part. I’ve been working half days (for the most part) for the past two weeks. Walking around at work is still very uncomfortable and working a full day leaves me exhausted. Today my boss told me that if it continued I’d have to go on disability. I have a doctor appointment in a few days to get advice. Part of me thinks I should suck it up and work full days again and the other half says to take it easy.

I'm not convinced that it's a good idea to mess around with back pain. I'd stick with taking it easy.

Yeah, hopefully the pain will ease up in the next couple of days.

 

[ComicChick]

Last month I slipped and fell flat on my back. I have a scoliosis to begin with so falling hard only made it more painful. I went to the ER and they found nothing wrong in the CT scan. They gave me a note for two days off work and some pain medicine. The next several days were excruciating and I woke up in the middle of the night several times with stabbing pain, unable to breathe.

Things have gotten better since then, and that’s the frustrating part. I’ve been working half days (for the most part) for the past two weeks. Walking around at work is still very uncomfortable and working a full day leaves me exhausted. Today my boss told me that if it continued I’d have to go on disability. I have a doctor appointment in a few days to get advice. Part of me thinks I should suck it up and work full days again and the other half says to take it easy.

as someone who broke part of their lower back this year, i'd say don't play around with it.

can you get an xray and/or MRI? my injury didn't show up in xray, but showed up clear as day in MRI and we were scheduling surgery as soon as we saw the images.

 

[Hobgoblin]

I have a doctor appointment on Thursday, I want a professional opinion. I’ll decide what to do from there. My concern is that she’ll just send me to a specialist, which will mean even waiting.

 

[squeekness]

I have a doctor appointment on Thursday, I want a professional opinion. I’ll decide what to do from there. My concern is that she’ll just send me to a specialist, which will mean even waiting.

Still better than just letting it go.

 

[ComicChick]

I have a doctor appointment on Thursday, I want a professional opinion. I’ll decide what to do from there. My concern is that she’ll just send me to a specialist, which will mean even waiting.

not necessarily. some take walk-ins with copay, which is what i did. we didn't know what was wrong yet, but i was losing the ability to walk and my body was stiffening up, not to mention losing feeling in my left leg from hip to toes. had i waited, my next appointment would've been almost 3 weeks from when i had the surgery. i'm glad i didn't wait and did the walk-in

 

[Hobgoblin]

Jeez that’s painful just to listen to. I’m having a better time than that, just a subtle stabbing pain in my back and a constant cramping across my abdomen. At least I’m not having trouble breathing anymore.

I’m just concerned about my job, plus any potential long term back damage. I’ll find out soon.

 

[Hobgoblin]

So the doctor didn’t give me time off but doesn’t want me to lift more than ten pounds at a time. Most things I lift are less than ten pounds so that doesn’t do much. Standing too long sets off my pain. I made an appointment with a chiropractor that my brother recommended. I know that the doctor can only do so much but it was disappointing.

 

[ComicChick]

So the doctor didn’t give me time off but doesn’t want me to lift more than ten pounds at a time. Most things I lift are less than ten pounds so that doesn’t do much. Standing too long sets off my pain. I made an appointment with a chiropractor that my brother recommended. I know that the doctor can only do so much but it was disappointing.

can you wear a brace at work to help? i'd ask your chiropractor at the appt to give you a note that says "as needed". that will help you a ton in case you need one in the future. it would be extra insurance for you at work.

 

[Hobgoblin]

Yeah, that should be doable.

 

[Hobgoblin]

The doctors note said I couldn’t lift more than ten pounds. Today the boss put me on leave because if I can’t lift, then I can’t do my job. I’ve contacted my doctor and she seems reluctant to give me full leave. Boss wants the restriction lifted or for me to be given full leave of absence.

 

[ComicChick]

The doctors note said I couldn’t lift more than ten pounds. Today the boss put me on leave because if I can’t lift, then I can’t do my job. I’ve contacted my doctor and she seems reluctant to give me full leave. Boss wants the restriction lifted or for me to be given full leave of absence.

is it leave that comes out of your personal leave or is it leave that the company is paying for?

 

[Hobgoblin]

I believe the company will pay up to 50% of my usual pay.

 

[InCali]

I believe the company will pay up to 50% of my usual pay.

You should check and see if a reasonable accommodation can be made. That's part of the ADA. Essentially, if you can perform the basic functions, the employer has to keep you on the job. For example, if lifting isn't an essential function, someone else can do it for you. If the main part of your job is stocking shelves, lifting might be an essential function. If you are making toast or flipping burgers, it probably isn't as someone else can bring the items to you.

 

[Hobgoblin]

Lifting is pretty essential. I need to lift boxes of raw chicken weighting many pounds to the oven and move chubs of meat probably weighing over ten pounds all day. I work in a deli.

 

[Hobgoblin]

Apparently my boss tried to text me four days ago to tell me to call in to work every day I’m on leave. I didn’t get the message because she texted my dad, who only told me about the message today. I assume I gave the store the wrong phone number. I talked to a manager and she said not to worry about it. I still need to get the Xray results on Monday and then I will decide what to do.

What a mess.

 

[Cap2024]

When you gain even some level of worldwide recognition -

FINANCIALLY PROTECT YOURSELF.

A film I had released worldwide on notable television networks, which was awesome and surreal. The part I didn’t expect -

My name was out there now as a first time writer. I’m guessing that made me an easy target. “First timer, out of nowhere, this guy likely didn’t think to protect himself that much.”

Out of the blue, someone/s tried to hack into my well-trusted bank accounts and venmo (stating that as to show getting in wasn’t easy). They did so successfully a couple times, I was luckily able to prove fraud. That went on for a couple of months. That never happened before my film premiered and my name was out there.

Now, I have everything fully secured and protected. I hope. Nothing since I took extra precautions, but it might become harder the more my name is out there (unsure).

Message of the story: standard protection isn’t enough once you become even very very semi known. Take steps to extremely protect yourself early on.