I agree, i find it hard to believe that a top secret spy would be invested in so many people and have the, i guess mind set to make things personal. I have always felt that Bond has to be a loner, as his job would be compromised - hence the one night stands, addictions and ease at killing - but what is good is seeing glimpses of 'friendship' and 'bonding' wight he people he works with - Moneypenny is the closest to a wife, Q to family and other oo's as siblings. We see a hint of the true Bond then we see this hard ass on missions, we then get to see how he handles situations.
I personally think they need a new actor, call it a soft reboot, continuation whatever you need to make it through the cinema door, once there is a new actor, the old is long forgotten. Sure, the past can be used as a flip between vague history/continuity like they seemed to do pre craig and then show a very different origins from then on - but to me, i want to see a whole new universe and cast.
That's why i loved Casino Royale, it was a fantastic film - rather than a fantastic Bond film.