Don’t disagree with any of this. Again, romance is fine, love if fine, but no-one making this trilogy bothered to do it right. Hell, this trilogy almost went out of its way to remove love entirely out of Star Wars. And it comes back to how these creative types are treating their female characters. They were so concerned with making Rey ‘the hero’ they were too afraid to show her having female desires and traits under some misguided idea it would make her look weak. She can’t have love, she can’t have compassion, she has to be able to do everything herself, she’s over powered, she can’t dress in anything feminine, etc. Every decision made with this character came from the perspective that anything feminine or related to women was weak. Meanwhile, Wonder Woman comes out, embraces literally everything about women and what appeals to women, and is loved by everyone.
I’d say Rey’s real problem isn’t a desire to make her “the hero” as much as it’s Abrams and Johnson approaching that idea from
wildly different creative philosophies, though to some extent I think both have certain “overcompensations” to mix with their personal ideas of her characterization and flaws, with TROS ending up “holding the bag” cause day dissonance with both.
Both Abrams and Johnson
want Rey to have flaws and show her having them... but their opposing, oxymoronic flaws that undercut each other. And you can honestly see their different takes by the relationships and nuances in how they approach Rey with her main male companion (Abrams with Finn in TFA, Johnson with Kylo in TLJ).
Abrams’s initial TFA version of Rey is a tough, assertive young woman who is more a classic “hero” than a “heroine,” if that makes sense; she’s an Action Girl who’s story wouldn’t need much modification to be that of a male character, in that her emotional portrayal, while passionate and human, comes with a survivor’s instinct and while she’s very much a girl, she’s a
tomboy-type of girl. She
is capable of compassion, softer emotions, and making mistakes, but they’re
not “traditionally feminine” in nature. Her flaw in TFA is one of denial and fear of facing up to being abandoned by her parents - she has
abandonment issues which would be all too familiar to a teacher like myself if they came from a sometimes moody, spirited, but tough and sometimes contrarian kid from a foster home. Those abandonment issues contribute to her being assaulted by Kylo and losing Han and almost losing Finn.
(A good comparison here might be someone like Korra from the Avatar cartoon series named after her, or the sometimes more assertive versions of Wonder Woman.)
In contrast, Johnson’s version of Rey in TLJ has at least
some significantly more “traditionally feminine” characteristics that don’t quite line-up with the TFA version and emerged from a different interpretation of her. While she is still
nominally a hardened survivor, she’s a bit more passive, overall “softer,”
especially towards Kylo, and downright
naive as her character flaw - she trusts Kylo too quickly on too little information, and sees her hoped for dream of him becoming the main hero shattered by his decision not to be redeemed, and instead of abandonment issues she has an identity crisis holding er back from being the hero. She’s a bit less the “traditional” Star Wars hero and more clearly a “heroine,” if that makes sense. Her compassion is very much front and center towards Kylo, and to some extent she even acts “girly” while around him, as opposed to her tomboy portrayal around Finn in TFA.
(For a comparison here, imagine one of the more “girly” versions of Supergirl, like the one who was dated by Powerboy for a while,)
Now, neither portrayal is
totally exclusive of the other, though I’d say both portrayal lend themselves to certain strengths in potential adventure romance stories. TFA’s “tomboy” Rey is a lot more likely to be “the dude” in her relationship with Finn, for instance, and definitely has clear aggression that resembles Anakin and Luke’s temper when dealing with Kylo. TLJ’s slightly more “feminine” Rey, on the other hand, is more likely to play the traditional “princess” to Kylo’s “dark prince” (partially why I think most fans of their pairing prefer TLJ for that nuance), and she’s a bit less likely to have to deal with aggression as a character flaw.
I think this even applies to her power level/skill level in the first two films - TFA emphasizes and makes her “overskilled” as a prodigy, capable of picking up knowledge extremely quickly, but not necessarily to immediate powerful use, while TLJ is a bit more “overpowerEd” in terms of raw strength... possibly in compensation for her being less “mentally” strong.
And unfortunately, combining theses variation is to TROS just doesn’t work as smoothly; Abrams still uses a more assertive and aggressive Rey mentally like the tomboy he wrote, but she is
still supposed to end up with a a more passive attitude towards Kylo/Ben when the time comes, even to the point of playing Sleeping Beauty to Ben’s Prince Charming.
And she has Abrams preferred “instant expert” strength with Johnson’s “super-powerful” trait, and she neither has remaining abandonment issues or identity crisis issues, and she can’t be too aggressive towards Kylo, because she’s supposed to fall for him.
I think either Abrams or Johnson could have made a more consistent and appealing heroine if the other wasn’t undermining their work.